I’ve written earlier than in regards to the sorts of companions/lovers that you’re interested in and what you do to get their consideration. However what in regards to the folks that you simply appeal to with out making an attempt? I’m speaking in regards to the sorts that all the time appear to be drawn to you, whether or not you’re or not. This magnetic attraction synastry.
The eighth Home
You’ll be able to blame the eighth Home for this. Dominated by Scorpio, it represents intercourse, shared assets, demise, compulsions, phobias and anything that you simply don’t have management over. Reverse from the 2nd Home of safety, virtually all the pieces in regards to the eighth makes folks uneasy—together with these it attracts in.
The form of folks that you simply magnetize are decided by the signal on the cusp of the eighth.
For instance, In case your eighth Home cusp is in Aquarius, you’ll appeal to Aquarian sorts. Let’s say the ruler of Aquarius (Uranus) is in your 4th Home conjunct your Moon in Libra.
You’ll appeal to those that upset your emotional (Moon) stability (Libra). They’ll impression you deeply, because the 4th Home represents household, childhood and your previous. Be aware that they don’t have to be Solar signal Aquarians. They may have Aquarius emphasised of their chart by signal, planet (Uranus) or home (eleventh Home).
Can you alter this?
So what to do with this eighth Home vitality should you don’t like who you’re drawing in? Can you alter issues? Sure and no. Aquarius on the cusp of the eighth will all the time be Aquarius. If you wish to appeal to extra steady sorts, you possibly can’t morph the signal into Capricorn.
However the eighth is about transformation. It holds all of your baggage, so the folks it attracts in are going to mirror what’s sitting in your psychological basement.
Again to our Aquarian instance. Moon conjunct Uranus signifies a conflicting want for stability and pleasure. You’re not completely satisfied when single, however restlessness kicks in once you cool down. Therefore the electrifying, upsetting folks that you simply appeal to. The bottom line is discovering a stability at residence (4th Home) between freedom and safety.
This may very well be accomplished with an understanding accomplice or a house enterprise that meets your emotional wants. As soon as this inner stability is achieved, the folks you attract could change into attention-grabbing somewhat than upsetting. They’ll be inspiring buddies as a substitute of traumatizing lovers.
Let’s take a look at one other instance
Scorpio on the cusp of the eighth and Pluto (ruler of Scorpio) within the seventh.
“Nice,” you would possibly assume. I appeal to the form of males I view as perfect, seventh Home companions.” However perhaps these guys change into controlling, possessive stalkers. When do you get a relationship the place you possibly can really breath? Because the seventh represents your projected qualities, the important thing could be to work by yourself sense of energy. Then you can expertise an intense, passionate relationship with out the manipulation.
The eighth Home isn’t simple. It represents a number of the most difficult points that individuals will ever confront. Many instances it’s simpler to keep away from it altogether. This is the reason coping with the folks it magnetizes might be so tough. Simply do not forget that the vitality the eighth sends out begins from inside (Scorpio). You’ll be able to’t completely change it, however you possibly can alter it with instruments starting from primary self-awareness to remedy.
As soon as the vitality shifts, the categories that you simply appeal to will change into the healthiest folks for you.